Showing posts with label sacrifice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sacrifice. Show all posts

Monday, 18 May 2020

Death--End or A New Beginning!


Life has another dimension and that is death. Death is the second phase, transfer of the soul to the unknown, to a life beyond. 

 

Where the soul is supreme, unplagued by physical shortcomings. Death is free from life's perplexities and there is no sense of false security which we embrace during life. 

 

When death knocks on our door, it frowns upon the vicious cycle of our life, where we spend an eternity clamouring for riches, recognition, accumulation and violating tons of tenets of humanity. 

 

Death allows us to recap our life in those moments preceding the end, which could last a moment, hours or even days. 

 

Death is the revelation many of us fear and dread. It is unforgiving, brutally honest and focused in its approach. 

 

It doesn't procrastinate or succumb to pressures or relent in it's goal. It comes with a purpose, achieves and leaves. 

 

Death is glory for the victim, but grief for the loved ones. 

 

Death is emancipation for the soul from a sickened body. 

 

The soul is now free as a bird, invisible to the human eye and spends eternity as a memory for others, and bliss for itself. 

 


Saturday, 28 April 2018

Re-view the Reviews



I put down the paper and stared blankly at the wall, the contents of what I just read still hovering in my mind, like a butterfly searching for a spot to drink nectar.

I had just read a book review by a reviewer, who seemed to derive sadistic pleasure by tearing into shreds, the contents of novel by a debut author.

For the next few minutes I stepped into the shoes of the author, trying to visualize and analyze, what he or she would be feeling, after reading the scathing review?

I wonder if a reviewer ever stops to ponder, what efforts an author puts in while writing a book. In addition to hours of endless writing, assembling of facts and figures, procrastinating about plots, characters, visualizing scenarios, and striving to create the perfect climax to enthrall a reader, are just a few of the tasks to be executed.

After all this is over, there is still the 'biting of nails' situation, when the manuscript is with a potential publisher. The period of waiting with bated breath, always fearing the prospect of rejection, are excruciating moments in the life of any author.

Therefore to be further subjected to a negative review, which can only be a shattering experience, is in my opinion, an avoidable situation for an author to seriously consider, especially debut novelists. 


I too fell into this trap and searched for reviewers when my first book was published, most of them offer paid reviews, which is equivalent to a situation where you 'pay to get punched in the nose'. Trust me, it’s a repugnant feeling.


Another observation is, that one of the basic qualities of being a good reviewer
 is to possess an excellent command over the language, which ensures they can delve into their varied vocabulary, to select subtle words, precise sentences conveying in a softer tone, what would otherwise be harsh and displeasing. Sadly that is not the case, and reviewers with a limited vocabulary tend to present a crude and lopsided review, without any concern for the author. The mocker itself is an example of mockery. To make my point, here is an example of how to write a critical review:


'The author has strived very hard to present his viewpoint on the subtleties of the plot, though at times his efforts are not entirely successful, but nevertheless the message is vividly conveyed. Probably a certain segment of readers may not be too amused, however there will always be readers who appreciate and identify with the author. In my personal opinion, for a debut novelist, it is a commendable attempt, and see very good future prospects for subsequent books'

A summary like shown above is not going to hurt anyone's sentiments, and will show the reviewer in good light for his or her empathy for the author. 

The purpose of penning my thoughts here is to shout out to reviewers, to go soft especially for debut authors, as a scathing review can cause irreparable damage to their psyche. A bit of self analysis, prior to reviewing could be a good approach to produce a subtle review, conveying the message without hurting sentiments, which would indeed be an enlightening experience for all. 

I already hear the whispers and snide retorts-If authors can’t accept constructive criticism then they should give up writing. True in a way, accepting criticism positively is something all authors have to accept, however harsh words isn’t constructive criticism.

Maybe such reviews could be digested by established authors, who would invariably care two hoots about the review, as they already have the cash registers ringing.



Thursday, 1 June 2017

Love and Beyond !




What makes us fall in love with another person? Do we do so for fulfilling our desire or is it love for the other.

Let's go back to a basic fact. What is love? No point in looking up a dictionary, ask yourselves whether you love your partner or spouse for yourself or for them.

Is your love over powering to the extent that you are prepared to overlook your own needs prior to that of your partner? If so, then you are on the right track or else you need to assess yourself.

I would like to break-up love into three segments:
1. Physical
2. Spiritual
3. Emotional

Physical attraction is the first point of any relationship. It is the catalyst which induces the desire to culminate and bind a relationship. However the greatest drawback here is that the longevity of such an attraction comes with a rather rapid expiry period. In certain cases a few months and the more fortunate enjoy it for a few years. Many relationships cease to exist at this point and each tend to move on either amicably or bitterly.

Spiritual bonding is a factor most couples tend to disregard, either it is ritualistically performed or is non-existent. God should be the center point of any relationship. Merging of our spiritual being with a spouse could be the cornerstone of a successful relationship.

Emotional rapport is nothing but being sensitive to each other's feelings. Respect each other's space and allow each to have some 'Me' time. Trust me it does wonders for the relationship.

Now that we have examined certain aspects of love, let's get to the most important point which generally make or break a relationship.

How much do you love your partner? Do you put self before or after? Let me explain further.

We all love ourselves without any doubt, there is no person in existence who can claim that they hate themselves. Now that we have clarity on that, let us quickly move to the second part, do we love our partner less, on par or more than ourselves?

Truthfully ask yourself this question. Because if you love less, then your relationship is on shaky ground and may or may not withstand the test of time.

Loving on par is a better situation but the possibilities of it slipping a shade or two lower as time elapses is a strong possibility.

However loving more is a unique state, and ensures the relationship blooms and thrives irrespective of time or situations.

Of course some may argue that this could also lose its sheen over the years and a relationship ends up being ritualistic and pedestrian. I don't dispute this argument, but if we are focused on loving our partner more than ourselves, then no challenge or obstacles will be big enough to overcome.

This aspect of love fascinated me for a long time and I even wrote a novel 'Love without Boundaries' about two people deeply in love and the challenges they faced.

Ayesha and Vihaan the two protagonists display a love only reserved for a chosen few. Try to fall into that category as there is nothing more satisfying than a successful relationship.
I strongly advice young budding lovers to read this book, as it moots a theory which if applied, could change your lives forever.